I just have to vent for a moment... and please don't take me wrong... I know it's all part of this process (and no, this isn't directed at anyone in particular, just an observation)...
We all know that the percentage of marriages that last get's lower and lower as the years go on, but do we walk up to the Bride and Groom and let them know that we don't think they will last??
We all know that the generations are getting steadily more corrupt, but do we walk up to a new mom and dad and tell them that we think they shouldn't have a baby? Or that we know they will fail as parents???
Ey-yi-yi... then why would so many people feel confident in telling people having this surgery that they doubt we will be able to keep it off (Since someone they know, didn't)...
Is it possible that we walk by SUCCESSFUL Gastric Bypass patients every day (who have kept it off and are continuing to do so)? We probably wouldn't know they were a success story, because they have made it thier lifestyle and they look like any other ideal-weight person...
We should all stop and think about it... because it's probably the case, just as we pass people in successful marriages and well-raised/well-behaved kids every day, there ARE people who succeed with this surgery, too!!
It's always the ones that don't succeed over time (marriages, surgery, child-rearing, etc) that people notice, but SOME DO! Let's have a shout out for them!!
I plan to be one of those people... but man... wish I didn't have to justify it so often!!
That's why everybody advises me this
5 years ago
I guess what I am intending to say is:
ReplyDeleteI know several people who have divorced (sadly), but I still chose to get married and put my whole heart 100% into making my marriage work (despite the odds)!
I know several unruly children and rebellious teenagers, but I still do my best to raise mine different, and would still have a baby if God chooses to give me one!
I also know people who haven't been successful with this surgery, but I STILL have high hopes and lots of determination myself...
We can't be judged for other's situations! That's all I'm saying!
Brooke,
ReplyDeleteThanks for opening up this blog. As far as the negative comments, I think a lot of that comes from people who have failures in their own lives. The first time I did Weight Watchers and lost 30 pounds a co-worker told me to keep my old clothes because I was sure to gain the weight back. Unfortunately, I did, but her comment was SO unwelcome!!
Praying all goes well with your surgery.
Thanks Kathy for the timely comment!! :) And I agree with you, most times it's not personal.. like I said it's all part of the journey. That's why I'm calling it a journey, because I know I'll be learning alot. I have reasons (beyond just weight) for doing this surgery as I think I've discussed in previous posts... so I just have to rest in the confidence that I have ALOT to gain beyond the negativity! :) :)
ReplyDeleteSo glad to have you share in my journey! :)